Cliche’ Wedding Traditions
January 24, 2010
Although a wedding is attended by hundreds or often legions of people, always remember the entire wedding revolves around only two people, you and your better half. You have spent months organising flowers, caterers, wedding videographers and obviously need the whole wedding to be as perfect as possible. Many couples now try avoiding what is regarded as cliché wedding ideas, but the truth is that they have been around for hundreds of years and trying to have a wedding that does not include at least a few of them is nearly impossible. Although the marriage day finally is yours, the couple, the guests have a tendency to take over the reception and it is difficult not to include some conventional concepts into your wedding ceremony and reception.
If you’ve got many guests attending your reception there’s always those initial awkward moments when everyone arrives and takes their seats. Many guests are strangers to each other and getting the whole glass clinking thing going where everyone seems to be roaring for the bride-to-be and bridegroom to kiss is the perfect ice breaker. This was always a part of the marriage reception in years gone, it was intended to repel malicious spirits and give the bride-to-be and groom a preliminary moment to ‘connect’ without the malicious spirits being around.
Whether or not the bride-to-be and groom may not be too happy with the idea, most people who attend the reception will pay special attention to the cutting of the cake. The exact reason and history behind it is confusing, but everyone will cheer and roar if the cake gets smeared into the faces of the bride and bridegroom. It may not be the most civilised way of eating cake, but it is always a favourite with the guests.
As the evening moves on you are sure to get someone that will start the conga line dance, who can resist that? It generally ends up with somebody tripping over one of the children or knocking over a table, which is something else that everyone expects. Even though poor old Uncle Joe will get a scolding for being so drunk, everybody will adore the conga.
Just before the bride and groom depart for the evening the bouquet and garter are tossed. Though the garter tossing is slowly vanishing the bouquet toss is still common at most marriage ceremonies. If this is one of those cliches that you prefer not to do at your wedding reception, be grateful that you are not living in the 14th century. Before the introduction of the bouquet toss, the guests would rip at the brides dress to try to tear a piece off as it was considered good luck, but as the tradition of handing down your wedding dress started that faded away and got replaced with the bouquet.
Whether or not you are a fan of cliché wedding ideas or not, there is no doubt that they are going to be around for many more generations to come and it’s much better to get into the spirit when attending a marriage and enjoy the customs that have endured across the ages, after all marriages are a celebration of love and unity.
Make Your Wedding Invitations Right With These Easy Tips
January 21, 2010
Whenever someone is getting married, having an entire list of the guests is one of the most critical things This includes the preparation for the wedding invitations. It should have and should show your earnest desire to invite those you want to see on your big wedding day.
The wedding invitation’s concept is on the idea that they really part of the wedding.
Here are some great tips and ideas for creating your invitation for your wedding.
1. Some soon to be couple does not know this very important fact but the main reason for making and circulating out your wedding invitations is to at least have an estimate on the list of guests you are going to invite. With this, it is smart for you to place a reply note along with the invitation. This can be in a form of a card or you can provide a name and number where they can easily notify their attendance.
2. If you plan to have a small wedding function, it is best to have the invitations personalized. This can also prevent the so called uninvited guests from coming. One more thing, purchasing few quantities of invitations are more expensive and require the minimum amount of orders. You can select a supplier that receives small orders. But if you really would not be ordering a lot, then, I suggest you make your own wedding invitation.
3. Specify on the wedding invitation what type of affair you will use. If possible, the invitation should directly reflect this. There are a lot of invitation designs and concepts out there for the theme you have. Oftentimes, weddings are formal events. However, there are occasions wherein the couples choose informal celebration.
4. The color in your wedding invitation should be chosen good. Yes this is common sense, but many does not follow this. The simple mixing of favorite colors are being done by soon to be couples. Weddings are usually colored white and will never go out of style. The important point is not to use one color but a good mixing of bright colors you can use. Bright colors can really ad up to the happy mood to anyone who sees it.
5. Be careful in the use of words for your invitation. Mindful use of words and putting them out correctly is very crucial in wedding invitations. These are the first-hand symbol of the great celebration that is about to take place. Any misapplied, abused, or unethical choice of words
6. A design that reflect your taste must be chosen. Invitations are the first thing that people will see even before the event itself. These usually come in the traditional different fancy designs of rectangular cards blended with laces and flowers. What you need to show them is the beauty of life that you and your partner had united to cherish everlastingly. Hence, it is strongly recommended to come up with a modern designs incorporated with true beauty.
The Wedding Guest List: How to Keep It Short and to Get Everyone to Live With It
January 19, 2010
Most couples are in their mid-twenties these days when they are planning their wedding. That typically means that they are already earning their own incomes and often paying for much of their wedding on their own. Dad and mom are off the hook. That may sound bad, but there is a silver lining in those clouds. Back in the time when the parents paid for most everything to do with the wedding, they had more control on the when, where and who in the wedding. Now with the couple paying the bills, they have the final say.
You Pay, You Decide
That certainly is true when it comes to the guest list. If you are paying for the wedding reception yourself, it is really up to you who and how many you want to invite. One of the key ways that couples are saving money on their weddings now is to have a shorter wedding guest list. You don’t have to invite all those people that your folks know but you don’t. You can just invite the people that mean the most to you.
This is not to say that it is an easy thing to have a short list of invited guests to your wedding. Cutting people out can cause some hurt feelings. Will those family members, co-workers or even fringe friends be upset that they didn’t get invited? Maybe so. All you can do is to explain the best you can the reason. Say that you simply wanted a smaller wedding. Or if it is true and you aren’t too proud, tell them you couldn’t afford a larger wedding with one to two hundred guests.
Hopefully, they will understand and not feel slighted. There’s no guarantee and some may not be satisfied with your explanation. But again, you are paying for it, so you get to make the decisions. Others should be able to live with what you decide.
Questions to Ask
If you are ready to start making your list, here are some questions you might ask yourself as you do. One, do you have to extend an invitation to co-workers? Two, what about children or significant others? Some couples have learned the hard way that they have to be careful in the wording of the invitation.
If you send the wedding invitation to Mr. and Mrs. Somebody, then they may bring the kids and mother who is living with them. It’s sometimes best to specify exactly who you are inviting and even include a reservation for say two people, or however many, in the invitation. Three, and this rule is often used by couples in deciding who to invite to their wedding, have we even talked to this person over the past twelve months?
Wedding Planners And Its Common Concerns
January 16, 2010
When a couple begins the wedding preparations that are associated with marriage a topic that does not often bring up pleasant feelings is found with the budget. The reason there exists a kibosh on the idea of budget is since it often places limitations on what a bride and groom hope to accomplish or incorporate in their wedding day. Although with the financial effects currently afflicting the market a wedding budget is more important than ever. The idea of using wedding planners is a high expense that many wedding parties can manage without. The idea that wedding planners are a necessary part of a wedding is an idea that wedding planners developed through marketing and stories of wedding horror. This misperception has tricked many wedding parties into believing that wedding planners are necessary for a wedding, leading to many times an additional fifteen percent cost over the total party expenses. Wedding planners are over glorified receptionists who typically only set appointments and make phone calls while you still do all the planning.
Having a wedding that has to work within the limitations of a budget is another problem with wedding planners since they do not like to be limited. It is important to know that wedding planners often set their fee off of the percentage of the total of the wedding event. So the expense of the wedding planner of ten to fifteen percent should already be deducted prior to making any plans for the wedding. In addition, wedding planners are known to talk couples into regularly exceeding their budget under the claim that this event will only occur once in their lifetime. The truth is that while this is a once in a life event you have set a budget for a reason and it would not be good to start your life as a married couple in debt as a result of your wedding. Another con that wedding planners have in regards to a couples budget relates to their preexisting relationships. This is done by wedding planners because they have established relationships with these vendors and to use someone else would be an inconvenience to their planning. The problem is that many times a couple cannot afford these extravagant vendors or those vendors do not offer what you are looking for so why are you paying someone who is going to try and talk you into something you do not want.
For the budgeted couple the wedding planners is an expense that they do not need to incur. The smart wedding couple would make the intelligent move and rely on friends and family for support. A wedding day is special and on many occasions friend and family members would love to find a way to participate in the event. Use these individuals as free wedding planners and maximize the resources you have before seeking outside assistance. If you can assign a specific task to your free wedding planner then you will have an individual who is focused on one task. This focus helps your free wedding planner not be overwhelmed with their assistance and helps you get a wedding task out of your hands and into the hands of a reliable individual with your best intentions in mind.
Express love through diamonds
January 6, 2010
Expressing ones emotion through diamond rings is the best thing one can give. Diamond is the best jewel to have and keep other than pearl and gold. When you are planning to buy gift for your loved ones, better choose diamond rings. It will make a wonderful present and it can mean a lot to the person who will receive.
Diamond rings is said to be the hardest natural material known and are extremely valuable. As what old ones say, for couples, it is better to have diamond ring as a gift because it last long in accordance with the couple that will share a love forever. Sometimes, when choosing an engagement ring, people more often choose diamonds because it symbolizes purity of love.
But despite of its beauty is a price that stops us from dreaming or wanting to have one. Diamonds are quite rare and highly prized. A diamond ring given by the person you love is hard to find. Due to the high demand for diamonds, this leads to the development of some methods for producing artificial diamonds. Anyhow, its high prize causes the market to make imitation diamonds. But you should know that imitation diamonds generally do not conduct heat compared to real diamonds it is easily scratched by real diamonds.
People mostly prefer different styles that suit their likes. Sometimes, in order to enhance its beauty, other kind of stones is used. It comes in different shades and shapes. Nowadays, people prefer diamond rings because it can be go with the occasion.
Engagement Rings make every woman’s heart shiver
January 6, 2010
As indication that you are engage to be married, engagement ring is worn by a woman. Traditionally, engagement ring is a representation of the love of a man to his soon to be other half. In the old tradition, it signifies a formal agreement to future matrimony.
For a woman, receiving an engagement ring is a wonderful thing that most likely to happen before marriage. It automatically melts every woman’s heart if this kind of opportunity comes. It is every girls dream to accept marriage proposal with an engagement ring coming from her soon to be other half. Even with any kind of ring as long as it is given with love and compassion can make every woman’s heart shiver in happiness.
Most type of engagement rings is classified according to their style. Choosing a ring that suits the likes and qualities of the one you love is quite difficult. There are instances that the couple chooses to select rings together. Today, it is becoming more common but still rare that a man choose to be creative in buying her partner an engagement ring. If you are lucky to have a boyfriend who has a creative mind, then expect that your engagement ring is design with his own special touch.
Marriage proposal with an engagement ring is a memorable moment a man can give to his woman. There are many options to choose and consider in choosing rings. The very point is, no matter how luxurious the engagement rings are, the love that binds the couples still matters. Even though it is a sort of classy and costly, as long as it satisfies you love in a romantic way, then it is worth the money.
The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide (Paperback)
December 6, 2009
Amazon.com Review
In contrast to its tabloid title, The Sex-Starved Marriage offers candid and sensible counsel for couples with mismatched libidos. Seasoned sex therapist Michele Weiner-Davis skewers two stereotypes about sex in marriage. First, she jettisons the idea that husbands are hot and wives are not, giving examples of “low-desire” men in her practice. Next, she upends the longstanding model of sexual response and advises readers: “Just do it. Desire is a decision. Once the (more…)
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Paperback)
November 18, 2009
Review
Advance praise for The New Rules of Marriage“Terry Real helps overturn old-fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere. This is a wonderful, joyful, and highly useful book.”–Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Crazy Busy“Falling in love is easy, staying in love is another matter. Couples yearning for more closeness are truly in uncharted territory . . . until now, that is. This book offers amazing (more…)
Simple Stunning Weddings: Designing and Creating Your Perfect Celebration (Hardcover)
November 9, 2009
The three biggest trends in weddings today are simplicity, personalization, and color. Wedding design expert Karen Bussen highlights these elements as she shows couples how to design their own weddings without going crazy or broke. Simple Stunning Weddings is the first wedding design book to focus on the where of the wedding. Location is the first and most important decision brides and grooms must make: everything else flows from that. Bussen showcases 12 popular wedding settings, (more…)
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (Paperback)
October 22, 2009
Amazon.com Review
Couples therapists often specialize in one or the other–sex or the relationship. It’s a ridiculous separation says marital and sex therapist David Schnarch, who believes sex is the all-telling barometer of a love relationship. Schnarch’s fundamental lesson is differentiation–the often threatening process of defining yourself as separate from your partner, which inevitably draws you closer to your partner than you ever dreamed possible. Schnarch uses dramati (more…)
